From the book Meeting the Mystery: Exploring the Aware Presence at the Heart of All Life by Nirmala.
(For those of us sometimes confused about the words of others…)
“What really matters is whether someone’s words expand your own experience of the truth or not. Anything that adds to or expands your experience of truth opens and softens your Heart, quiets your mind, and expands your sense of yourself. So when words do this, you can savor them and ponder them to fully absorb what they are pointing to. If anyone’s words (even a spiritual teacher’s) have the opposite effect and contract your Heart, make your mind busy, or make you feel small and inadequate, then you know those words are not important for you. You don’t need to reject them or make them wrong, just let the idea be there and move onto something that is truer for you.”
(Does this make you feel a little bit more peaceful?)