Does it matter if your best friend understands or cares about your spiritual viewpoint (or lack thereof?) Does it matter one iota if your husband or wife understands he/she is not a separate self? Do you ever need to convince a single other person about the validity of your worldview (or non-existence thereof?)
I don’t know about you, but most of my friends do not care at ALL about non-duality or non-separation or Oneness or whatever. Some of them seem politely interested. Some of them are even intrigued. But on a fierce and passionate search to discover THE TRUTH? I think not. Believing it’s even possible? Wanting to think about it or live it 24/7? Nahhh.
And how many people have you met who have sought and sought and sought and sought and sought until giving up in exhaustion before realizing THE TRUTHLESS TRUTH which existed all along? Have you met one person? Six? A baker’s dozen?
More importantly, does it matter?
My husband has five percent interest in discussing spirituality. A very few friends exist with a moment-to-moment understanding of flowing as the river of life. A handful of friends like to ponder spirituality, what makes the personal self tick, the meaning of the Universe.
And isn’t it all fun to ponder this and that? To dissect the motives and actions and thoughts and intentions of the separate self? It can be a blast doing that for most of this lifetime. There’s always the possibility that we’ll figure ourselves out and finally be happy and content and peaceful and satisfied, right?
Or one can simply jump off the wheel of self altogether, the mandala of spirituality or philosophy or psychology. What’s left after the jump? Anything one can discuss with another living soul as you free-fall without a net?
Years ago I talked about spirituality with every Tammy, Dianne and Harriet. Every Tom, Dick and Harry. You want to talk about Native American spirituality? Kundalini energy? Buddhist meditation? C’mon, friend, let’s GO!
(This blog is really the only quiet corner of Universe where these typing fingers decide to share about “spirituality” any more…although the word spirituality does not begin to describe what *simply is*.) And perhaps they only type because someone may be suffering, may feel a passionate desire to KNOW THE TRUTH, thereby starting the endless seeking…which eventually may lead to giving up…catapulting one into the endless now…which has always existed as the only truth, always available, always present, always whole.
But does it matter if your significant other or best friend cares about non-duality?
ABSOLUTELY NOT. (Excuse that dualistic pronouncement, but does it really matter one iota?)
Everyone believes what they believes, inspired by what inspires. I used to think it was important to be surrounded by friends with similar interests and spiritual inclinations. But isn’t life more exciting with simply everyone and everything appearing with their own seemingly separate views and likes and dislikes?
Everyone is the Absolute appearing as a temporary separate self, an illusion, a trick of Maya with her twinkling wink.
Everyone reflecting a different diamond reflection of the whole. You, and you, and you, spinning into existence and out again.