Adyashanti shares an interesting story. I am paraphrasing from memory, but this is the gist: A spiritual seeker tells him–I want what you have. Adya appears puzzled. What do I have? The spiritual seeker says–I want to be enlightened, to be awake, to be realized. I want what you got. Adya replies something like–oh no, I never got anything. That young man never got anything. That little one never made it at all.
This story comes back to me at times. Like this morning. Sitting here on the couch, thoughts appear in the background. They keep referring to a “me”, to a Kathy. They continue to reference a solid separate person with certain characteristics. The foreground of consciousness watches them appear and disappear, appear and disappear.
I sometimes want to explain to my friends and blog readers here on line. To tell them what happened, what shifted, how the outgoing blogger and social media participant dissolved–poof!–now you see her, now you don’t.
I want to make up a story telling you where the person went. “This is what happened,” I will say, craftily spinning a tale, pretending that there is an actual person who can come and go, arise and fall, create stories and fall silent.
But the stories can’t really be told without fabricating more creative non-truths. I can’t tell you anything about me without shape-shifting into a me. (Which is perfectly OK if that’s what the Universe wants to do in this ever-changing moment.)
Sometimes, like this morning, there’s a nostalgia which arises for the person. Oh, that little one, that one, where is she? I almost want to create her this morning out of sticks and stones and a rib from Adam and some grinning amusement from Eve. To craft story after story to make a solid character who acts predictably in certain ways, who is dependable as the heroine or villain of the tale. Or who loves acting unpredictably!
(And some days she returns–oh here I am, darling! Let’s play today. What character do you want to be?)
But it doesn’t seem possible right now. It’s as if the old characters have fallen away into the snowy woods, a snowman melted away, the archetypes empty icicles gleaming in the weak January sun.
Matthew of Biblical fame says it this way: For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.
The fullness that remains when one dies while still alive! Wow! What appears in place of the stories is truly amazing in the most ordinary way. Fingers typing, can you imagine? The wood stove humming? Thoughts and stories appearing? To enjoy encounters with people more than before, but without needing anything in return? All without reference to a central character, a separate person?
Perhaps it was Adyashanti who said that you may lose the separate self but what you gain is the whole world. The whole darn world! Can you imagine that?