In recent weeks it becomes clearer and clearer how strong emotion and identity link together to form a sense of the separate self.
Let’s say a wave of annoyance or anger arises against Trump, immigrants, your spouse, your own actions.
That emotion somehow seems to cement identity. You seem to know who you are. You are the one, you think, riding that white-hot feeling of rage. Or that mild buzz of disagreement.
This link seems to convince us who we are. We are the one who wants to right wrongs. We are independent beings deserving a say, a voice, an opinion. The emotion bubbling alongside the thought somehow convinces us that it’s true.
I recently experienced a disagreement with my husband. He thought one thing; I thought another. A wave of annoyance arose. Thoughts clamored to the surface: he’s wrong, I’m right, the answer is of course my answer. Simultaneously a logical part arose attempting to find a solution to our dilemma.
What was interesting is that the wave of annoyance and sense of “I” arose simultaneously attempting to convince the separate self of its existence and truth.
If you’ve done inquiry for a while, it’s sometimes possible to surf that wave of emotion and simply be with it. To see very clearly that the emotion does NOT mean it’s coming from a separate self. In fact, surprise!, it’s possible for the view to shift to a perspective which sees that the emotion is simply a reactive arising–and definitively not who one ultimately is.
It’s possible to look around the living room and see–once again–that what one truly is is aware, free, all-encompassing.
Identification shifts from the focused to the expansive. It shifts to reveal the emotion as not-self. Simply another arising in an infinite field.
The argument with the husband or Trump or your own actions? With the shift comes an opening for something else to appear. A space for unknown possibilities now arising out of peace.